In honor of my birthday (Shout out to all my fellow Leo’s!!!) I thought i’d share with you some of the most important things that i’ve learned throughout my life journey thus far. #itsmybirthday #chapter33 #lifelessons #livingmybestlife #norules #bloggerlife
Cheers to 33!!!
“There’s only one thing more precious than our time and that’s who we spend it on.”
1.) One very important lesson that i learned is that family is everything. They are the ones that are going to stick by you through best and worst of times. Some friendships will come and go, others last a lifetime those are the ones I hold close to my heart. As per family no matter how much we fuss and fight, we are thick as thieves.
It’s okay to speak your mind!
2.) I was always the type of person to be quiet and hold back because I worried about how the next person would feel. My 30s have taught me that it’s okay to voice my opinion. I’m no longer afraid to speak up when I don’t agree with something. This for me has been one of the most freeing feelings to be able to be outspoken and not give a flying (bleep) what anybody says. I now know and understand that it is a privilege for me to be able to do that.
You don’t have to have it all figured out!
3.) For me this has been one of the most challenging things in life. The pressure I put on myself to be at a certain stage in my life by a certain time. Growing up you hear about the timeline your supposed to follow and things you had to have accomplished by then. Well I say (bleep) that, it’s okay to not have it all figured out. The idea of perfection isn’t real or realistic it simply doesn’t exist. I now embrace the unknown, take it day by day and follow my own timeline.
Don’t let anyone make you feel less!
4.) As women we are constantly being judged on how we look, act, dress, etc. But we are the ones who decide our self-worth. I’ve dealt with my share of judgement my boobs are too small, my feet are too big, etc…. I have flaws as I mentioned nobody is perfect. Honestly, I don’t care. I am okay with the way I look I am perfectly imperfect. If it bothers the next person that sounds like a personal issue to me. I am happy with the way I am cellulite, varicose veins, stretch marks and all. You must love yourself and don’t give someone the power to dictate your worth, but you.
Find a creative outlet!
5.) Most of us aren’t 100% creatively fulfilled by our day jobs. Engaging different parts of your brain (and different parts of your personality) is extremely gratifying. Seriously, you cannot overestimate how having a good hobby can change your life. I kid you not since I started blogging, I need less sleep and am a much happier person. REAL TALK!
Its ok to say NO!
6.) My biggest problem was saying no. I had such a hard time with saying no in fear of disappointing someone or seeming like a terrible person. But in fact, it’s the opposite it doesn’t make you a bad person or selfish. It’s simply you not wanting to.
Money does not buy happiness!
7.) It took me a while to realize this. Now don’t get me wrong we all need money to survive and to live a comfortable life, but what honestly brings me happiness is my family and friends. It doesn’t cost anything to be kind, spread love and to help others. All those things bring me joy and happiness.
Being an asshole gets you nowhere. It’s nice to be nice!
8.) I am guilty as charged, I’ve had my moments. For example, I was super grumpy, irritable and annoyed at something going on in my personal life that I snapped on a co-worker. I took a step back felt terrible and immediately apologized. Life lesson being a bitch is nasty. Smile, be gracious, be kind and be humble.
You cannot change a person, you can only change how you react to them.
9.) This must be the most difficult thing ever for me. For so many years I’ve tried to control the outcome of family drama, friendships, work etc. This year I’ve realized that it is, what it is. Me trying to control the situation and change people in to something they’re not is pointless. It’s a waste of breath. People are who they are and I just need to accept that.
You will be criticized no matter what you do, so do you!
10.) I’ve been blogging for a few months now. I always wanted to blog, but was always fearful of what people would say and think. But I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter what people think if it makes your soul happy then do it, People will criticize you regardless of what you do, so that is what brought me to create my blog. It’s a great way to share my niche (creating stylish looks on a dime). It’s cool to be able to go back in a year and read your blog posts to see how much you have evolved. So just do your thang!
So, there you have it, a few things I’ve learned over the years. Having it documented is a friendly reminder to continue to work on myself as a human being. I am not perfect, so please don’t take it as me preaching. I just wanted to share what I’ve learned. Remember do what works for you!
What are some life lessons you’ve learned? Let’s chat.
Now I am off to celebrate another wonderful chapter of my life. Please have some champagne for me guys!
P.S. Thank you for taking the time out to read my painfully long post. (LOL)
Shout out to the man behind the camera (Hubby)